A patient told me: \u201cYes we did all this work on my mother, my brother and my father and that was very important, but what really made the difference is that you were here with me as a person. That you told me how you felt with me, what you liked and at times didn\u2019t like about being with me. That you warned me when I was wandering off and that you were honest with me.\u201d This was the moment that I really understood. She invited me, needed me to be there as a person, not only as a therapist. She taught me, and I thank her for that.
\nMany clients need that we show ourselves as a person. But it feels shaky when we put ourselves in. We are on uncertain grounds, we don\u2019t know what will be coming next. It feels to me like diving in the water, from that moment on you can\u2019t control it anymore, you have to swim. \u201cIt feels to me as if we are in a struggle\u201d ; \u201cI notice that things somehow aren\u2019t flowing between us today, and I saw that you fought back the tears twice. Maybe you don\u2019t feel like going more vulnerable places. How\u2019s your experience?\u201d ; \u201cI can really feel your sadness\u201d ; \u201cI feel your fear, it makes me afraid too.\u201d ; \u201cI really feel angry at you that you let her do that to you.\u201d
\nWhen we dare to be present as a person defenses fall a way, safety and courage come in. When you dare to say what is really good and special in the way the client is with you, how it is uncomfortable at times, how the client is important to you, when you doubt your intervention, how you are happy, how you feel powerless sometimes, how feel you did the wrong thing, how you learn from the patient, when you feel close and when you feel distant. How you admire the patient, care for the patient. Then miracles start to happen.<\/p>\n
Hans WellingA patient told me: \u201cYes we did all this work on my mother, my brother and my father and that was very important, but what really made the difference is that you were here with me as a person. That you told me how you felt with me, what you liked and at times didn\u2019t like about being with me. That you warned me when I was wandering off and that you were honest with me.\u201d This was the moment that I really understood. She invited me, needed me to be there as a person, not only as a therapist. She taught me, and I thank her for that.
\nMany clients need that we show ourselves as a person. But it feels shaky when we put ourselves in. We are on uncertain grounds, we don\u2019t know what will be coming next. It feels to me like diving in the water, from that moment on you can\u2019t control it anymore, you have to swim. \u201cIt feels to me as if we are in a struggle\u201d ; \u201cI notice that things somehow aren\u2019t flowing between us today, and I saw that you fought back the tears twice. Maybe you don\u2019t feel like going more vulnerable places. How\u2019s your experience?\u201d ; \u201cI can really feel your sadness\u201d ; \u201cI feel your fear, it makes me afraid too.\u201d ; \u201cI really feel angry at you that you let her do that to you.\u201d
\nWhen we dare to be present as a person defenses fall a way, safety and courage come in. When you dare to say what is really good and special in the way the client is with you, how it is uncomfortable at times, how the client is important to you, when you doubt your intervention, how you are happy, how you feel powerless sometimes, how feel you did the wrong thing, how you learn from the patient, when you feel close and when you feel distant. How you admire the patient, care for the patient. Then miracles start to happen.<\/p>\n
Hans WellingA patient told me: \u201cYes we did all this work on my mother, my brother and my father and that was very important, but what really made the difference is that you were here with me as a person. That you told me how you felt with me, what you liked and at times didn\u2019t like about being with me. That you warned me when I was wandering off and that you were honest with me.\u201d This was the moment that I really understood. She invited me, needed me to be there as a person, not only as a therapist. She taught me, and I thank her for that.
\nMany clients need that we show ourselves as a person. But it feels shaky when we put ourselves in. We are on uncertain grounds, we don\u2019t know what will be coming next. It feels to me like diving in the water, from that moment on you can\u2019t control it anymore, you have to swim. \u201cIt feels to me as if we are in a struggle\u201d ; \u201cI notice that things somehow aren\u2019t flowing between us today, and I saw that you fought back the tears twice. Maybe you don\u2019t feel like going more vulnerable places. How\u2019s your experience?\u201d ; \u201cI can really feel your sadness\u201d ; \u201cI feel your fear, it makes me afraid too.\u201d ; \u201cI really feel angry at you that you let her do that to you.\u201d
\nWhen we dare to be present as a person defenses fall a way, safety and courage come in. When you dare to say what is really good and special in the way the client is with you, how it is uncomfortable at times, how the client is important to you, when you doubt your intervention, how you are happy, how you feel powerless sometimes, how feel you did the wrong thing, how you learn from the patient, when you feel close and when you feel distant. How you admire the patient, care for the patient. Then miracles start to happen.<\/p>\n
Hans WellingA patient told me: \u201cYes we did all this work on my mother, my brother and my father and that was very important, but what really made the difference is that you were here with me as a person. That you told me how you felt with me, what you liked and at times didn\u2019t like about being with me. That you warned me when I was wandering off and that you were honest with me.\u201d This was the moment that I really understood. She invited me, needed me to be there as a person, not only as a therapist. She taught me, and I thank her for that.
\nMany clients need that we show ourselves as a person. But it feels shaky when we put ourselves in. We are on uncertain grounds, we don\u2019t know what will be coming next. It feels to me like diving in the water, from that moment on you can\u2019t control it anymore, you have to swim. \u201cIt feels to me as if we are in a struggle\u201d ; \u201cI notice that things somehow aren\u2019t flowing between us today, and I saw that you fought back the tears twice. Maybe you don\u2019t feel like going more vulnerable places. How\u2019s your experience?\u201d ; \u201cI can really feel your sadness\u201d ; \u201cI feel your fear, it makes me afraid too.\u201d ; \u201cI really feel angry at you that you let her do that to you.\u201d
\nWhen we dare to be present as a person defenses fall a way, safety and courage come in. When you dare to say what is really good and special in the way the client is with you, how it is uncomfortable at times, how the client is important to you, when you doubt your intervention, how you are happy, how you feel powerless sometimes, how feel you did the wrong thing, how you learn from the patient, when you feel close and when you feel distant. How you admire the patient, care for the patient. Then miracles start to happen.<\/p>\n
Hans WellingA patient told me: \u201cYes we did all this work on my mother, my brother and my father and that was very important, but what really made the difference is that you were here with me as a person. That you told me how you felt with me, what you liked and at times didn\u2019t like about being with me. That you warned me when I was wandering off and that you were honest with me.\u201d This was the moment that I really understood. She invited me, needed me to be there as a person, not only as a therapist. She taught me, and I thank her for that.
\nMany clients need that we show ourselves as a person. But it feels shaky when we put ourselves in. We are on uncertain grounds, we don\u2019t know what will be coming next. It feels to me like diving in the water, from that moment on you can\u2019t control it anymore, you have to swim. \u201cIt feels to me as if we are in a struggle\u201d ; \u201cI notice that things somehow aren\u2019t flowing between us today, and I saw that you fought back the tears twice. Maybe you don\u2019t feel like going more vulnerable places. How\u2019s your experience?\u201d ; \u201cI can really feel your sadness\u201d ; \u201cI feel your fear, it makes me afraid too.\u201d ; \u201cI really feel angry at you that you let her do that to you.\u201d
\nWhen we dare to be present as a person defenses fall a way, safety and courage come in. When you dare to say what is really good and special in the way the client is with you, how it is uncomfortable at times, how the client is important to you, when you doubt your intervention, how you are happy, how you feel powerless sometimes, how feel you did the wrong thing, how you learn from the patient, when you feel close and when you feel distant. How you admire the patient, care for the patient. Then miracles start to happen.<\/p>\n
Hans WellingA patient told me: \u201cYes we did all this work on my mother, my brother and my father and that was very important, but what really made the difference is that you were here with me as a person. That you told me how you felt with me, what you liked and at times didn\u2019t like about being with me. That you warned me when I was wandering off and that you were honest with me.\u201d This was the moment that I really understood. She invited me, needed me to be there as a person, not only as a therapist. She taught me, and I thank her for that.
\nMany clients need that we show ourselves as a person. But it feels shaky when we put ourselves in. We are on uncertain grounds, we don\u2019t know what will be coming next. It feels to me like diving in the water, from that moment on you can\u2019t control it anymore, you have to swim. \u201cIt feels to me as if we are in a struggle\u201d ; \u201cI notice that things somehow aren\u2019t flowing between us today, and I saw that you fought back the tears twice. Maybe you don\u2019t feel like going more vulnerable places. How\u2019s your experience?\u201d ; \u201cI can really feel your sadness\u201d ; \u201cI feel your fear, it makes me afraid too.\u201d ; \u201cI really feel angry at you that you let her do that to you.\u201d
\nWhen we dare to be present as a person defenses fall a way, safety and courage come in. When you dare to say what is really good and special in the way the client is with you, how it is uncomfortable at times, how the client is important to you, when you doubt your intervention, how you are happy, how you feel powerless sometimes, how feel you did the wrong thing, how you learn from the patient, when you feel close and when you feel distant. How you admire the patient, care for the patient. Then miracles start to happen.<\/p>\n
Hans WellingA patient told me: \u201cYes we did all this work on my mother, my brother and my father and that was very important, but what really made the difference is that you were here with me as a person. That you told me how you felt with me, what you liked and at times didn\u2019t like about being with me. That you warned me when I was wandering off and that you were honest with me.\u201d This was the moment that I really understood. She invited me, needed me to be there as a person, not only as a therapist. She taught me, and I thank her for that.
\nMany clients need that we show ourselves as a person. But it feels shaky when we put ourselves in. We are on uncertain grounds, we don\u2019t know what will be coming next. It feels to me like diving in the water, from that moment on you can\u2019t control it anymore, you have to swim. \u201cIt feels to me as if we are in a struggle\u201d ; \u201cI notice that things somehow aren\u2019t flowing between us today, and I saw that you fought back the tears twice. Maybe you don\u2019t feel like going more vulnerable places. How\u2019s your experience?\u201d ; \u201cI can really feel your sadness\u201d ; \u201cI feel your fear, it makes me afraid too.\u201d ; \u201cI really feel angry at you that you let her do that to you.\u201d
\nWhen we dare to be present as a person defenses fall a way, safety and courage come in. When you dare to say what is really good and special in the way the client is with you, how it is uncomfortable at times, how the client is important to you, when you doubt your intervention, how you are happy, how you feel powerless sometimes, how feel you did the wrong thing, how you learn from the patient, when you feel close and when you feel distant. How you admire the patient, care for the patient. Then miracles start to happen.<\/p>\n
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A patient told me: \u201cYes we did all this work on my mother, my brother and my father and that was very important, but what really made the difference is that you were here with me as a person. That … Continue reading